In recent years the introversión It has been a topic, for reasons not entirely clear, It has caused a enormous curiosity, especially in the daily content circulating on the Internet. The digital era, it looks like, He led floodlights who enjoy less, introverts, perhaps because there is a secret affinity between these and same Internet: isolation it takes to navigate, He taste for idle wanderings without a definite purpose, continuous reward of a relentless curiosity, the cats, and little more than that. To some extent it could be said that Internet is like a big introvert who have found other company and means of expression.
This time, However, We do not want to dwell much on this phenomenon and instead propose a practical content for that kind of personalities. As we know, introverted characterized by convey a degree of shyness when they are with others, much if it comes to many, are lower among less. With one or two friends, an introvert will feel perfectly comfortable and confident, but at a meeting of more than 10 o 15 people, being most frequented unknown or just, most likely is that the introverted street, retract and just display.
But this is just? In fact, No. Quite often introverts are people who very much worth knowing, if Callan is some kind of fear, but not because they have to talk about. "The quietest people have the loudest minds", Stephen Hawking once said, and this certainly applies to many introverts.
Hold a conversation
Hence we wanted to bring together a number of tips to start a conversation, of nothing, which it is sometimes the best things happen.
Start with the simplest
You may be surprised, but usually The simplest is also the most effective. Ask someone what works, where you know who invited, If you like the music you hear at the party. Some people only expect an entry to speak with someone and others do not care whether it is a trite phrase. In addition, you have to start with something, Do not you think?
He talks about what interests you, what you like, what you know
If you talk about what you like you will feel safer and more confident, but mostly you show who you are: books you prefer, the music you listen, the things you do every day, perhaps even part of your story and your expectations for the future.
But also listening to the other
Show what you are having an implication: others can express what they think about it. They may agree but disagree, can share your pleasure but also find it unpleasant that you like.
And accept their way of seeing things
The above, However, You have nothing to do with you. Do not take it personally. If someone hates a book that you love is not because you like it, but because in the history of the other circumstances they were conjugated to hated that book.
Do not miss out on your impressions, thoughts, etc.
In this sense, demand not lose focus of the conversation. Introverts tend to think more, to doubt, to wonder every word they say and how to order them. And no one can have the mind in two places at the same time for long. You are here or are your thoughts. And the best, With some frequency, it is to be here. Reflection has its own time and place.
If you have something to say, dilo
Another common trait is that introverts prefer to keep their opinions, your ideas, their proposals. Again, wrong, for although no guarantee that it be a great idea, funny, unexpected, otherwise no guarantee either. It is best to say it, and that the circumstances dictate its own reception.
No one shares your judgments
Why introverts prefer silence? With some frequency, because they carry a voice that is always judging their ideas and their actions, comparing them with an ideal or an unattainable parameter definition. Nothing you say or propose will be enough fun, not smart enough, not amazing enough. Nothing is ever enough, says that voice, to which the introvert listens more than he should. But if something is liberating in this regard is to know that, to put it crudely, nobody shares these judgments and maybe even nobody is interested (no a priori). Your witty parameters to consider something you say or do are yours, No one else's, and they may be more severe or more lax than others. Why not enjoy your acts freely, without beforehand that you think can be silly or boring? behaving like, without paying attention to what others may think of you (which it is nothing more than a reflection of what you think of yourself / a), surely you find much pleasure in living, and it will be much easier to make a simple, everyday action like having another person conversacióncon.