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4 emotional ghosts that make us run away from love

4 emotional ghosts that make us run away from love

It's simple love and be loved. However, the task of giving and receiving is not easy, either because they tend sometimes to have some fear of love or because we think it's a feeling I understood work and itself.


Emotional ghosts


But why sometimes we fled the experience of love secretly sabotaging say that both yearn?


1. When the caging fear love


Según la psicóloga Lisa Firestone, el problema se basa porque solemos ser ajenos tanto al origen como al destino de nuestras acciones, ya que la mayoría responde a unconscious motivations.

That is why, remain mired in eternal question of why we fail to build positive and stable relations, when the answer is in the "commitment" both sure it will deposit aimed at achieving the opposite.


2. Hold an idealized image of the beloved


Llevar una imagen preconcebida llena de cualidades ostentosas y grandes virtudes , es indicio de una perspectiva del amor muy mal encaminada porque si acudimos a la retención de imágenes idealizadas establecemos distancias y fomentamos diferencias poniéndonos en contra de nuestra pareja y simulando ser "Victims" of a reality that is not what we expect.


3. Get stuck into the emotional experience


Suele activarse cuando se tiene recuerdos amorosos negativos.

Commonly it occurs during enamoramiento, where it manifests as a warning voice that fills us fatalistic thoughts and warnings to refuse to love.

Tener estos pensamientos solo traerá desdicha y sufrimiento nos lleva a adoptar una defensive posture, depriving freely express what we feel.


4. Criticizing excessive


Con la crítica negativas saboteamos inconscientemente nuestra relación intentamos verlo como un problema en vez de buscar soluciones.

Destructive criticism differ essentially constructive criticism because the latter seek to contribute to the growth and welfare of the couple.

Criticizing excessive, on the other hand, It is a method of autosabotaje which it aims to place ourselves in a position where it is easy to distort our feelings and the other person, victimize or make us go through the member relationship "always sacrificed".

Learn to identify the unconscious behaviors that potentially threaten the dynamics of our relationships are the key to understanding why our love life seems to go against what we strive to build apparently.

In this way, may develop mechanisms that allow us link our actions to our emotional couple of ghosts.


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