Learn to miss is also part of our personal maturity. Feel the hollow permanent absence may sometimes become very corrosive, for this reason, it is necessary to initiate us to force in the art of goodbye, in that "let go" and despairs hurts but at the end of the day, It is part of the cycle of life.
We know that the concept of "miss" is always associated with the lack of a person. However, It is curious to realize something very concrete: the human being is a specialist in taking missing objects, situations, people and even impossible to define abstract dimensions. We talk about the emotional and existential voids, of such complex inner worlds that sometimes endanger our mental health.
"I miss the person I was before, when he was cheerful and had more hope, more illusions ". This idea, this sense of involution that many may have had more than once is what psychologist Robert Plutchik defined as "yearning of being past" and also included it in his famous theory of the wheel of emotions.
We can not forget that live immersed in this subtle flavor bubble longingly creates a desperate longing to something we had or were in the past. At the same time, longing leads to vulnerability and fear and vulnerability even in the beginning of depression. So, before allowing us to drift as Ophelia submerged aquatic world of sorrows, it is necessary to train in the art of goodbye and especially knowing miss.
That country called "miss"
There is an invisible country. A parallel world, vague and intangible that all we frequent on occasion called "miss". Turn the knob to enter it every time someone we love away from us. What we frequent when we passed a routine or an activity that was significant to us. Also, we inhabit -almost- permanently in this country when we lose someone or even when we feel a deep dissatisfaction with ourselves.
In this vital Queen hole a cold wind constantly called yearning: longing for someone or something. In fact, as the Latin root reveals itself, """anhelāre"It means short of breath, It costs us breathe because in our heart there is a hole that escapes us slowly, life. Because the country of "miss" is like a murky labyrinth where you should NEVER stay long, because as we move forward we will forget the way back.
Live in this permanent exile plunges us into despair and in deep dissatisfaction with the present, to the real world. Before remain anchored in this vital twilight, people have to be able to make intelligent decisions in these moments of emotional complexity, to get out of this maze, miss understanding that is part of life, not a way of life.
Training your emotions in art Goodbye
We must learn to close cycles. A not crave what we were yesterday, but to invest in what we can become today. We must learn to miss who is no longer with us, but letting it go to a beautiful corner of our heart, while our being, take a firm resolve to be happy again. Life is the end of the day make decisions, put one foot in front of another to get out of those personal labyrinths where it is no good getting caught.